But we don't have to hate ourselves. Everyone does. This is normal. Some of us deal with it through avoidance — we sleepwalk through life, never making any serious decisions , following others, and avoiding all difficult tasks or confrontations. Some of us deal with it by numbing ourselves with sex or substances or obsession or distraction. Others try to overcompensate by trying to save the world and bring about a utopia and maybe start another World War in the process. No, the solution is to merely minimize our self-hatred by first becoming aware of it, and then learning how to mold it and shape it and control it. None of them are perfect. The more you hate yourself, the more you will try to please and impress the other people around you all the time.
Low Self Esteem and Depression
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It helps if you can identify where the feelings of self-hatred are coming from. There are lots of things that affect the way we feel about ourselves. Here are a few:. Lots of people do. Still, people do tend to become happier as they learn to feel better about themselves. Our work is driven by our commitment to promote mental health as a critical part of overall wellness, including prevention services for all; early identification and intervention for those at risk; integrated care, services, and supports for those who need it; with recovery as the goal. Sign up for our newsletter to learn about opportunities to help change the conversation around mental health. Why do I hate myself? Here are a few: Extreme self-criticism.
I Hate Myself
Samar Habib. How could you be so stupid? I hate you. I hate you so much. How could you be so weak? Rewind back a couple of years: one of the courses I was teaching at a local university was about sexuality, it caused controversy and I got hated on big time. Later that year I was assaulted. I held on for another two semesters before, on an impulse, I resigned. Ever since that moment, I hated myself for throwing away everything I worked so hard for. For not being strong enough to weather through.
But where do these feelings come from? How do they influence us? And how can we push past them to live a life free of the harsh attitudes of our inner critic? In their research, psychologists Dr.